The excitement the night before, of dress rehearsals and pictorials. He was wearing a yellow polo shirt, 2 blue buttons in front, dark blue collar and the school logo on the left chest. It was paired with same dark blue colored short pants, white socks, school shoes and their yellow school bag. He was all set and ready for school. Our sons first day of School! He was 3 yrs old. As all these emotions build up, you start taking as much pictures as you can, to keep memories of the first day. Anticipation as a parent? That is one thing you can not steal from any parent knowing that their child is going to school. Wondering how they would be like without us, how they would react to classmates around them, how they will live with everything new around him. This is an expectation we all have to face as parents: Separation Anxiety as our kids start a new milestone; the first step to achieve the ultimate goal in the World of Education. As parents, we all wish we can peep and watch every single activity they go through so we can guide them. But there are just boundaries we have to live with and follow. I will share Facts on Separation Anxiety.
Number 1: On his first day, all dressed up, all geared and ready for school. All smiles as he normally is, he waved goodbye and went inside the classroom. Waiting, you feel impatient. Wondering if he was okay. Thinking if a bully might be hitting him. Separation Anxiety doesn't happen to the child alone, it also happens to the parent. Your mind wanders on possibilities. Then the school bell rings to mark end of class. Out of all those kids that would look almost the same in their uniforms, you spot your child too quick! He came out with wet eyes and cries as soon as he sees you. Yes, IT IS NORMAL. We went through this as well when we were young children. We also went through the same emotions so you need to understand, it is just a stage and both parties will pass through. Number 2: Separation anxiety is equal to adjustment. Adjustment to a whole lot of things around them. As classmates come in, a child then learns the value of identity and they learn to adjust to other people around. They realize they are unique from the others. They discover individuality and they are one separate person from Mommy or Daddy. They learn adjustment to new people around and new environment. For the parent, we learn that our kids, even linked to us, they are one separate entity. Number 3: Separation Anxiety leads to the value of both independence and interdependence. They learn that they are expected to act in ways like adults do: bring your things, make sure they keep their own stuff and taking responsibility of their belongings. They learn that they are responsible of their actions inside their classrooms and towards classmates. They discover the beauty of interdependence; they are introduced to Friendships, they learn cooperation as well as the importance of correlation to other children. It is vital we take the time to explain to our kids that life is beautiful when you know how to respect other children and the value of friends. Number 4: Separation Anxiety leads to Emotional Stability. They will learn how to control their emotions especially now that they have to make basic decisions on their own once in school. They learn emotional independence and the value of thinking first before they react. I do hope those helped and for those parents who went thru these scenarios with your children, you all can well relate. For parents with young children who are not yet in school, something you can look forward to. The most important thing is that, we, parents are expected to support and help them to get through such phase. It will all come to pass.
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The story of the little hamster family. They were gifts given to me by a close friend, she wanted me to keep it and take care of it. I was a willing care taker and would love to take care of those little babies. It was a Mom, a Dad and three little babies! They were so cute and adorable. I gave them two homes, the dad with all the boys and the Mom on her own cage. I was told not to mix them or else the Mom could get pregnant again, I was very careful at that. I enjoyed taking care of them, my younger brother helped me with them too. We give them nice baths and showers, making sure their cage is clean, nice and comfortable. We made them playgrounds they can play and made sure they got their water supply always at full.
One day I decided to give them a nice bubble bath, so I made this cutie little tub 🛀 for them to swim. I intended for the daddy and the babies to play in the tub. I saw their cages were getting messy, I decided to keep it tidy. I placed the Mom in the sink and placed some food, while I was cleaning her cage. Then it was time for the Dads cage to get cleaned, I took him out of the cage and placed him in the sink. I took the babies and moved them to the Moms cage temporarily while I cleared the cage. Whistling while I worked, everyone was fine, I played some music too for good feels. Since both cages are clean, I put the Mom back in her cage with the babies, then I placed the Dad in that little bubble bath I prepared. The water was not to high, just maybe waist line high and bubbly, it smelled really nice, it was prefect so they can relax. Turned my back for a second, went to check on the babies so I can add them to the tub, picked one up and to my surprise, when I looked at the little tub, the Daddy is not there. I suspected he jumped out but I can't find him anywhere in the bathroom. Then it crossed my mind, oh my goodness! Could he be under the bubbles? Lo and behold, i found him there, under I got him out of the water. I laid him on the towel and checked for breathing. Imagine this tiny little hamster, he might have drank soapy bubbly water, so I tried to resuscitate him by doing a little cpr. I know how bad it was, it was terrible to watch him die, but I had to do what I needed to do. In my head, CPR should work for even these tiny little ones. I gave his heart a little pump using my finger, then blowed thru his open mouth. No response. Oh my God, I accidentally killed him. I was terrified to realize that. It broke my heart. I tried several times to revive him but then the attempts have failed. He laid there motionless. I'm sorry buddy, Rest In Peace. After that incident, no more bubble baths for the rest of them. It was a sad thought that their father died. I still placed the Mom is her own cage and the babies since they were all male, I separated them from their mother. The mom started to have some kind of angst issues, she also seemed to gain a lot more weight. I started to worry she would pass away too and be depressed. But surprisingly, I noticed the mother started to hide behind some piles of paper in her cage so I decided to clean it that following week. To my surprise, she had 5 newborn babies hiding behind that pile! Oh my goodness! Wow! Who would have thought, that same day I left the Mom and the Dad for a few minutes together in the sink and he got her pregnant? I could not even explain how that happened but she definitely got pregnant and even after losing her husband, she gained 5 more babies. I then have one Mom, 3 older brothers, 5 new babies! It was a riot, but never did I ever let them go swimming on a bubble bath again, just to be safe. Went to see the Grand Canyon and stood there at top of the steep cliff looking down. We are so small in this world, a speck of life. I sat at the edge and had my photo taken.
I am thankful for LIFE, the Life I have been given and the LIFE I am living. Indeed, I have lived my life, not yet to the fullest, I still have a lot of things I would like to do & accomplish. I have dedicated my whole life to the Lord, every part of me, every fiber of me is for Him as I never live for myself. I live for the happiness of others than my own, for the love of my family, friends and everyone I care about. I live to serve those whom I can be of help to and whom I can be a person to come to mind when they needed to talk about just anything without judgement. I pray I will serve my purpose on this earth because LIFE is short. I celebrate my birthday not just on my natal day, I celebrate it every morning whenever I wake up, realizing I am awake and I have another chance to live. Celebrate LIFE because that is the best GIFT we have. |
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