GLITTER DUST OF MY MIND. SOLILOQUY.
The excitement the night before, of dress rehearsals and pictorials. He was wearing a yellow polo shirt, 2 blue buttons in front, dark blue collar and the school logo on the left chest. It was paired with same dark blue colored short pants, white socks, school shoes and their yellow school bag. He was all set and ready for school. As all these emotions build up, you start taking as much pictures as you can, to keep memories of the first day.
Anticipation as a parent? That is one thing you can not steal from any parent knowing that their child is going to school. Wondering how they would be like without us, how they would react to classmates around them, how they will live with everything new around him. This is an expectation we all have to face as parents: Separation Anxiety as our kids start a new milestone; the first step to achieve the ultimate goal in the World of Education. As parents, we all wish we can peep and watch every single activity they go through so we can guide them. But there are just boundaries we have to live with and follow. I will share Facts on Separation Anxiety. Number1: On his first day, all dressed up, all geared and ready for school. All smiles as he normally is, he waved goodbye and went inside the classroom. Waiting, you feel impatient. Wondering if he was okay. Thinking if a bully might be hitting him. Separation Anxiety doesn't happen to the child alone, it also happens to the parent. Your mind wanders on possibilities. Then the school bell rings to mark end of class. Out of all those kids that would look almost the same in their uniforms, you spot your child too quick! He came out with wet eyes and cries as soon as he sees you. Yes, IT IS NORMAL. We went through this as well when we were young children. We also went through the same emotions so you need to understand, it is just a stage and both parties will pass through. Number2: Separation anxiety is equal to adjustment. Adjustment to a whole lot of things around them. As classmates come in, a child then learns the value of identity and they learn to adjust to other people around. They realize they are unique from the others. They discover individuality and they are one separate person from Mommy or Daddy. They learn adjustment to new people around and new environment. For the parent, we learn that our kids, even linked to us, they are one separate entity. Number 3: Separation Anxiety leads to the value of both independence and interdependence. They learn that they are expected to act in ways like adults do: bring your things, make sure they keep their own stuff and taking responsibility of their belongings. They learn that they are responsible of their actions inside their classrooms and towards classmates. They discover the beauty of interdependence; they are introduced to Friendships, they learn cooperation as well as the importance of correlation to other children. It is vital we take the time to explain to our kids that life is beautiful when you know how to respect other children and the value of friends. Number 4: Separation Anxiety leads to Emotional Stability. They will learn how to control their emotions especially now that they have to make basic decisions on their own once in school. They learn emotional independence and the value of thinking first before they react. I do hope those helped and for those parents who went thru these scenarios with your children, you all can well relate. For parents with young children who are not yet in school, something you can look forward to. The most important thing is that, we, parents are expected to support and help them to get through such phase. It will all come to pass. |
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