GLITTER DUST OF MY MIND. SOLILOQUY.
The day smiled at me as I opened my eyes. This is another good day. I will share something that made happy me the past few days. It all started when I tried to look back and asked myself: if I had made a lot of friends in my lifetime or more enemies? Funny question to ask one's self but I did. Why? Mainly, I have moved schools, moved companies and moved locations. Made good friends, made bestfriends then left.
Second, I had been trying to filter friendships nowadays, that I end too overly too picky till I realized I don't want to trust anyone any longer. Failed friendships makes you flee far from friendships. But that is not right. The only friends that I have let go lately are only the recent friends I made in the last 5years which only comprises.. Hhmm, what? A meager 5% of the 100% more friendships I made in my whole existence. The more I have to cheer up about it. Third, I realized I used to have good memory of people, faces & names. It could be best to start making use of it again. I started to scroll back in time of classmates, schoolmates from wayback preschool, elementary, highschool, college, church and work like flipping thru microfilm collection. This started things. This encouraged me to reconnect to old friends. I started to remember a whole lot of names flooding thru my head like the Book of Names in NIV. Out of the abundance in resource here due to social networking, it came to me, maybe I could look for long lost people. Maybe I consider them lost yet on their end, it was me tagged as lost and missing for years! Amazingly, my God is a Big God! Four days ago, I thought of searching for a classmate in elementary. Theresa Buhia. I tried to search but no results. I found another classmate though, Sharon Oyao, I added her up and guess what? 6th grade Class picture! And wait up, there's more-- tags of old classmates and eventually I got added to our school alumni page. Now I'm adding classmates and teachers from 20 years ago. Can you imagine that? I am excited, soon enough I will find Theresa, my childhood best friend. I have been searching for her for years. I miss her so much, I wonder if she still remembers me. The excitement the night before, of dress rehearsals and pictorials. He was wearing a yellow polo shirt, 2 blue buttons in front, dark blue collar and the school logo on the left chest. It was paired with same dark blue colored short pants, white socks, school shoes and their yellow school bag. He was all set and ready for school. As all these emotions build up, you start taking as much pictures as you can, to keep memories of the first day.
Anticipation as a parent? That is one thing you can not steal from any parent knowing that their child is going to school. Wondering how they would be like without us, how they would react to classmates around them, how they will live with everything new around him. This is an expectation we all have to face as parents: Separation Anxiety as our kids start a new milestone; the first step to achieve the ultimate goal in the World of Education. As parents, we all wish we can peep and watch every single activity they go through so we can guide them. But there are just boundaries we have to live with and follow. I will share Facts on Separation Anxiety. Number1: On his first day, all dressed up, all geared and ready for school. All smiles as he normally is, he waved goodbye and went inside the classroom. Waiting, you feel impatient. Wondering if he was okay. Thinking if a bully might be hitting him. Separation Anxiety doesn't happen to the child alone, it also happens to the parent. Your mind wanders on possibilities. Then the school bell rings to mark end of class. Out of all those kids that would look almost the same in their uniforms, you spot your child too quick! He came out with wet eyes and cries as soon as he sees you. Yes, IT IS NORMAL. We went through this as well when we were young children. We also went through the same emotions so you need to understand, it is just a stage and both parties will pass through. Number2: Separation anxiety is equal to adjustment. Adjustment to a whole lot of things around them. As classmates come in, a child then learns the value of identity and they learn to adjust to other people around. They realize they are unique from the others. They discover individuality and they are one separate person from Mommy or Daddy. They learn adjustment to new people around and new environment. For the parent, we learn that our kids, even linked to us, they are one separate entity. Number 3: Separation Anxiety leads to the value of both independence and interdependence. They learn that they are expected to act in ways like adults do: bring your things, make sure they keep their own stuff and taking responsibility of their belongings. They learn that they are responsible of their actions inside their classrooms and towards classmates. They discover the beauty of interdependence; they are introduced to Friendships, they learn cooperation as well as the importance of correlation to other children. It is vital we take the time to explain to our kids that life is beautiful when you know how to respect other children and the value of friends. Number 4: Separation Anxiety leads to Emotional Stability. They will learn how to control their emotions especially now that they have to make basic decisions on their own once in school. They learn emotional independence and the value of thinking first before they react. I do hope those helped and for those parents who went thru these scenarios with your children, you all can well relate. For parents with young children who are not yet in school, something you can look forward to. The most important thing is that, we, parents are expected to support and help them to get through such phase. It will all come to pass. Every night, after reading books and stories, we say a prayer before we go to sleep. It is like a long litany of prayers done by the two kids - David and Zofia, a time when they pray for everyone and mentioning the names of all the family members, relatives, friends (which includes Mickey & friends then Barney + Baby Bop + BJ) We end together in a big Amen to seal it. They kiss goodnight, say their I love you's and then they lie on their stomach (a common sleeping position for the 3 of us) ready to sleep. Then David and Zofia will say,"Mommy, Massage.."
When since they were babies, Mommy go thru the same routine. That is why now that David is 4 and Zofi 2, they still go thru the whole process. I give them body massage. Either i do it, my sister Justine, or brother Reyco, it is important we give them massage. Massage is best even when they are young, especially while babies. There are a lot of physical and psychological advantages brought by it. So i will try to share a few things with you all, especially the mothers, or even the daddys on massage for your children. Massage is best done either after their morning shower or after halfbath at night before sleep. For babies, you can use very very light scented massage oils like chamomile or lavender. It is best not to use strong scented ones. Make sure though that the room windows are closed and room temperature is not too warm nor too cold. This is the best means too for you to establish bond with your kids. You start by slight touches and stroking on their chest, then their arms to their fingers. It's best to talk to your baby while you give them the massage so it will make them feel connected to the activity you both are indulged in. It will have to be soft massage to avoid making them feel any pain due to pressure. You can massage in round outward strokes to their tummy area to help in better digestion. Then massage for the back, the legs and toes. Then finish with gentle head or scalp massage. By this time, if you gave them the massage in the evening in bed, they could be sleeping as you were halfway through the massage. This activity actually aids the kids to sleep soundly. It also will help in blood circulation, assist in boosting kids appetite, neurological development and child's emotional security. While I was pregnant, I bought a book on it and have read about the advantages of massage in the whole physical, mental, emotional and sociological development of children. This is one of the best activities you can share with your kids. It will not only strengthen your bond with them, it will also make your kids feel your love through your touch. If you have not done it for your kids yet or babies, then now is the best time to start it! |
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